Cody - I am a psychologist. Though most of my work involves assessments and evaluations, I also use therapy to help people.
I LOVE this post. It is very accurate. It puts the power in the client’s hand to decide if they are actually in a therapeutic relationship. It fosters transparency by dashing cliche’ responses from a therapist.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information with the world!
Thank you, Cody. This really hit home. I’ve had some of these phrases used on me in ways that made me doubt my own feelings. It’s such a strange thing when something meant to heal ends up making you feel smaller. Your words helped me name that, and reminded me that real healing deepens trust in ourselves, not takes it away. I work with emotional healing through music now, and this piece reminded me why it matters to hold space with care, not control,
Well-written and clearly well thought out. When I was working with survivors of domestic violence, I was surprised how many therapists were willing to do "couples counseling" for abusive relationships. I even had one client whose counselor told her, "If you keep allowing yourself to be physically abused, I'll have to contact DHS about the children."
Cody - I am a psychologist. Though most of my work involves assessments and evaluations, I also use therapy to help people.
I LOVE this post. It is very accurate. It puts the power in the client’s hand to decide if they are actually in a therapeutic relationship. It fosters transparency by dashing cliche’ responses from a therapist.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information with the world!
Thank you! I was hoping to be informative without coming across anti-therapy. I believe in your work despite having a bad experience myself.
Thank you, Cody. This really hit home. I’ve had some of these phrases used on me in ways that made me doubt my own feelings. It’s such a strange thing when something meant to heal ends up making you feel smaller. Your words helped me name that, and reminded me that real healing deepens trust in ourselves, not takes it away. I work with emotional healing through music now, and this piece reminded me why it matters to hold space with care, not control,
in quiet strength and sound,
Afterforever ✨🎵
Yeah, I don't typically use these. At the same time, I do not practice "Unconditional Positive Regard"
This is so important and well said. Thank you!
Well-written and clearly well thought out. When I was working with survivors of domestic violence, I was surprised how many therapists were willing to do "couples counseling" for abusive relationships. I even had one client whose counselor told her, "If you keep allowing yourself to be physically abused, I'll have to contact DHS about the children."